Responding to sparkly magical events.

April’s series of blogs called “Why? Discovering your personal motivation” has been inspired by excerpts from Coventry Magic by Jacki Smith.   

Just to recap: For 2015, we are dedicating ourselves to unleashing your personal power. Since this is no overnight task, we have broken it down month by month. April, we talk about discovering what is your personal motivation.   It may seem obvious, but being honest about what and why you want the things you do can be a tricky and sometimes painful. Last week we talked about ways to break down those excuses and look for real solutions. This week it is all about becoming prepared for when the changes you wanted to make actually start to happen.   Each Saturday  there will be a new blog about motivation and what drives you.  These blogs are really just a summary of the real exercises found in Coventry Magic by Jacki Smith, for more detailed explanation, I recommend checking out the entire book.

Responding to Sparkly Magical Events

So you did it!  You did one of the most complicated things in life.  You made a real and lasting change to reach a goal or fix an issue.  Oh crap!  Success can be really scary.  From successful business folks to the guy who landed his first interview, most people feel like they have somehow tricked people to get where they are.  They feel unworthy of the opportunity. One day someone is going to march right in and expose them for the frauds that they are!  This is a typical response to when good things actually happen to you after the result of hard work and sacrifice. You have confronted your fears, moved past your blocks and things are moving, they are happening and it doesn’t quite feel right.  

This is just a tremor attack from your old fears and issues. Realizing your focus or what is motivating you is wonderful but incredibly scary.  Our lives are built upon the journey, if we know the path, it can’t really be true.  Old habits die hard and these feelings of being an imposter are those old fears refusing to die.  Our fears are like an addiction, they will never truly be gone and they will always be in the back of your head like ghost reminding you that you have put yourself out there and you can get hurt.  Surrounding yourself with a community of people who support your changes and letting go of those who want to keep you afraid can be key.

There is always something new to learn or conquer, the good news is that we will never quite have it completely figured out.  When you feel the fear that your life will be boring or you don’t deserve it, keep in mind that whatever you do, it is just a step.  Keep people in your life that support your changes and keep checking in with yourself to make sure you are still on the right path for what you want.